Be who you are, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind

Be who you are, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind
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Do you feel like there is something you have to do that you don’t do because of ‘them’?  What would ‘they’ say if you did?  What would ‘they’ do if you dared to have a different opinion or do something they would not do?  What would ‘they’ say if you suddenly declared that you believe something they don’t believe?  Would they turn their backs on you? So what!

If you procrastinate and hold yourself back because of others, you do a disservice to the world.  You are here to show up and shine and be your best self in every possible way, those who mind truly don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind, I assure you.  You are here Be who you are, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mindfor a reason, and that reason is not to hide your talent and neither is it to keep your light under a bushel.  Be who you are, your talents and your light have an important role, you just have to show up and find it.

My journey

Be who you are, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind
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I have been holding myself back for as long as I can remember.  Growing up in a community where you went to church, or if you didnt, at least you didn’t voice any other thoughts.  I held back so no one would notice that I have some ‘unusual’ interests. Interests that I didn’t feel would fit in the peer group I ‘belong’ to.  I didn’t want to be considered odd since I thought many of those I socialize with could be a bit unimaginative.  It has been like holding down a beach ball; it kept popping up all the time, I became exhausted and now I have decided that it isn’t worth it.

I actually held back so much I didn’t know what it was I wanted and needed to do, what my passion was!  I just knew I believed in things other people did not believe in, or so I thought.  I was unfair, I have later found that there are many of us out there, with just about the same ideas and beliefs.

Who are ‘they’?

If you ask me; ‘they’ don’t exist, ‘they’ are you, and ‘they’ are all in your head.  Sure some people will try to make you fall back in line, but if they love you and want the best for you, they will accept and celebrate your change when they see how happy you have become.

You might lose some friends, but if they don’t like you for who you are, they aren’t your friends anyway.  And you will also find that you get many new friends instead, sometimes people who you are actually acquainted with will become close friends when you find you share ideas and interests!

We have to grow!

Be who you are, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind
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If we don’t do what we are here to do and what makes us feel fulfilled, our souls shrink and we become bitter.  Growing and expanding our awareness in this world so that we can be a force for good, is more important than ever before, seeing how the situation is in this world.  If all of us with these peaceful and loving beliefs step up and create a strong vibration we will most certainly be able to do something about what is going on.

The oddest thing

The last year or so I have slowly but steadily stopped holding back and started talking openly about my interests in spirituality and I’m flabbergasted by how many people are relieved when I start talking about it!  It’s like they too want to talk and want to share and discuss these ideas.  The discussions and exchanges of ideas have given me a lot of new friends all over the world, but I have also been able to form new and stronger bonds with the people around me.

Be who you are, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind
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Looking back on history some of the most effective movements to end wars have been peace movements, with leaders who got their followers to answer violence with non-violence, bullets with flowers and so on.  This is how I know we absolutely need all those who will stand together, follow their passion and send out positive energy into the world.

Please leave a comment on this or any of the other posts, I’d love to read you opinion!

Namaste, Kristina

20 thoughts on “Be who you are, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind”

    1. Thanks Darius! We really need to come together and be positive with all the things going on. Just look at the Middle East and now Canada, it’s crazy. Blessings, Kristina

  1. I feel the same way. I’ve also just begun rethinking my values and what I believe in. Most people just want to say something, but they don’t really care about what you think. Therefore. . . they don’t matter!

    1. You are absolutely right, and it is so liberating to just speak your mind. Sometimes it is actually quite fun to see the reaction when you say something they don’t expect 😉

  2. Hi Kristina, you have a great site. I truly believe that we should be able to express our opinions. Growing up, I was usually shy, but as I have gotten older, I find that it does help to express my feelings instead of “bottling things up inside.” Life is too short for us to live for others and lose ourselves. Blessings to you.

    1. Thanks Sonja! We definitely should be able to do that, but very often we don’t even think about that we hold ourselves back because it has become second nature. It’s only when we get that nagging feeling that there has to be something more that we hopefully start to break free. Namaste, Kristina

  3. Good article. My late hubby and I had many a conversation about this and the house is full of books on spiritual subjects. You have an interesting site and it’s now bookmarked! 🙂

    1. Thanks Kathy! New Age is such an interesting and positive topic and I like trying out all the different approaches. Thank you so much for bookmarking! Namaste, Kristina

  4. That article struck me right away. I recognized myself in the text and that it bothers me that I often do as others want me to do, not myself. I’m inspired to stop that thinking know and move forward.Thanks.

    1. I’m so happy if it made you feel like that, I know how empowering it is to just step up and speak your truth. Thank you and Namaste, Kristina

    1. Thanks, and it sure is! Someone said: Live your own life because everybody else’s is already taken, I like that one also. Blessings, Kristina

  5. This is a niche that has actually changed my life around. I’m thankful you are putting it out there for the world to discover!

    Light and Love.

    1. Thank you! It really is a life changer, I’m so happy I found it and get to work with it every day. Namaste, Kristina

  6. Hello Kristina
    You have an impressive site.
    I have spent my life doing what I thought ‘they’ wanted me to do but it was never good enough.
    Now, I’m trying hard to do what I feel is necessary. It’s hard to break a habit but it makes such a difference not being limited to ‘their’ thoughts, actions and dreams. I’ trying to live my own thoughts, actions and dreams now.
    I love the site. Congratulations
    Take care

    1. Thank you Jackie, you have no idea how much that means to me. It has taken me such a long time to learn to do my thing and not care about ‘them’ and just a few months ago I was totally faking it in here. It might sound strange, but for me “fake it ’til you make it” has been the perfect way to go.
      I love your site too, teaching and caring for our children is the most beautiful thing!
      Namaste, Kristina

  7. Kristina, this was exactly what I needed to read this evening. I have been trying so hard for so long not to offend anybody, namely my close family who are religious. I don’t share their beliefs, but I’ve always felt that they wouldn’t accept me if I didn’t pretend or at least put my own beliefs and values to the side when I’m around them. Your post reminded me that I need to be true to myself, and that if they don’t like the real me, then they might be my family but they wouldn’t be my friends and perhaps some distance might be called for in that case. There’s only one way to find out. Thank you for posting this!

    1. Thank you so much Angie, I’m so happy you found this helpful. I hope your family will realise that you are worth so much and that what you believe in is insignificant as long as you are a good person. Religion needs spirituality but spirituality does not need religion, because religion is a man made construct by people who want others to think they are closer to God, but since we all are a part of God, spririt, source, the dude, or whatever you like to call it we are all just as close. Namaste and take care, Kristina

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