We all have things we fear, and becoming afraid of things is natural, but what if the fears we have start to cripple us and hold us back? What if the things we fear become something that stops us from fulfilling our dreams? That is when you have to face your fears to change your life! One of my fears is the fear of heights, so finally I decided that enough is enough, and I followed my daughter to a wallclimbing club. You can see the result in this picture. I had so much fun and even if I was terrified; I did it! And I can’t wait to do it again!
Fear saved us
Fears are supposed to save us from things that might harm us and we have had them for as long as humanity has existed. We used to be afraid of bears, saber-toothed tigers and other wild beasts and that fear served us well, but now we rarely find ourselves in situations like that but we are still afraid of things. I guess that is why we have phobias, like arachnophobia, agoraphobia and all the others. It’s like the fear has to find a reason to exist even when the threats ar not that obvious.
We still need fear
I of course know we still have very real reasons to be afraid; we have wars, guns, car accidents and things like that, but most often we don’t have to be too afraid in our everyday lives. It’s not like we are going to be flogged in public for being late for work, or thrown in jail if we don’t return that library book on time, but we still get stressed out when those small things happen, and that stress is a modern day equivalent of the fear of tigers.
Quite often the fears we have nowadays are social; we don’t want others to think we are fat, ugly, stupid, uneducated or what ever it is. We also do not want to stand out, we want to be able to hide in a crowd and it takes a whole lot of strength and determination to leave the crowd.
Fear of success?
So many times we think that it is a fear of failing that holds us back, but I think it is a fear of succeeding that keeps us from doing everything we want to do. Deep down I think we say to ourselves; they will not like me anymore if I become successful! Who is going to want to be with me if I become rich? They will see me as a snob if I do all the things I want to do!
When we hold ourselves back like this we are not only doing a disservice to ourselves; we show our children that not shining is the way to live, AND we rob the world of what we could have done. We owe not only ourselves but the whole world to be the best we can be and overcome our fears!
I know for me writing a blog like this, and not even in my own language, would have been impossible just a year ago. I have worked hard on taking the plunge and doing more and more things that scare me, and it becomes easier and easier. Now I have also started doing remote healing, writing a book and speaking up about what interests me without being afraid to be ridiculed and it is so very liberating.
Here is one of my favourite quotes, by Marianne Williamsson, so powerful and so beautifully said:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?”
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