I used to be one of those who reacted with anger in a split second when I felt disrespected. All my shields went up and I defended myself fiercely. It didn’t make a difference if I deep down felt that the ‘aggressor’ was right, I would not admit it for the life of me. I’d rather go down kicking and screaming defending something I knew was wrong than admit defeat. I could so easily have become a hater and someone who attacks others if I hadn’t had a good role model in my maternal grandmother and sense enough to look at what I was doing and also read a lot of good books. Some of these books are presented here on this website and more will come.
Love and hate
As I have contemplated and read about the issues of love and hate, ego and self, I have come to the conclusion that what it is all about is fear. There is really only two emotions: love and fear, and fear is generally a lack of love. This makes the matter so simple and yet so difficult; what we need is more love to cure the fear, but to a person who is full of fear, showing love is a sign of weakness. What is worse is that when the ego is working mostly on fear it tips over into what we call hate because the feeling of fear becomes so painful and exhausting that it is easier to decide that everyone who don’t think like me are only worthy of my hate.
The two voices
I remember when I first figured out that we have these two voices in our heads; the voice of self and the voice of ego. As I understood that the voice of the ego is the one that immediately jumps into action when I feel ‘threatened’ it was such a relief, because I then knew I could stop listening to it. The ego voice is not me and there is strength and also relief in being able to resist it.
The end to wars?
The ego used to be very important when we were living as hunters and gatherers and had to defend ourselves against wild animals. It helped us muster our courage and retaliate when we were under attack or had to run for our lives. We really needed it then but now it is no longer so, and we don’t need it that much anymore. On the contrary: it would be good if everyone came to understand the function of the ego so that they could choose when to listen and when not to. I firmly believe that if we could teach people this we could end all wars, because war is the most extreme manifestation of collective fear there is.
It’s always fear
Even if a war is started to gain something, like more land or natural resources; it is still a matter of extreme fear because then the fear is of losing face, not being ‘special’ or not being as great as one wants to portray oneself to followers.
Fear is also what motivates those who are rich as Midas to still want more and more while they fight tooth and nail to protect what they already have. They of course fear losing their riches and some go to the extreme and don’t care who they hurt, they just have to get more and more money! This is what is happening within the medical and food industry; they try to sell really bad stuff to us instead of what we actually need and what is good for us. I’m certain that many people who work within these companies really want to do good, and really believe in what they have been told by their superiors, but the deception is mind-blowing. This is also what makes those who sell tobacco and other harmful stuff say over and over again that their merchandise is not toxic, even though the evidence says something totally different.
What we need to do is to spread knowledge about the difference between ego and self, that could at least be a beginning.
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