What does strength mean to you? Is it being able to do physichally challenging things? Or maybe you think that someone who can force others to do what they want them to do is strong? Is a heavyweight champion strong? I think that the strongest people are those who dare to be vulnerable, because they have a soul strong enough to shut the ego up. Fear of being vulnerable is just the ego trying to protect itself and has nothing to do with who we really are.
Quite often when we are discussing things or we disagree with others, we have a hard time admitting we might be wrong. Even those times when we realize after a while that we are wrong, it is not easy to admit it. Still, being strong enough to say; “I was wrong”, is truly admirable and not a sign of weakness. For me I know I have often had a little voice in my head say; why do I go on like this, when I know I’m wrong? Realizing I don’t have to do that was great, and it has given me such a sence of peace knowing I don’t have to be right all the time. Overcomming the voice of the ego is a blessing!
The same thing goes for crying. It is so common that men have been taught; boys don’t cry! This is such a crippling thing to men and it is wonderful to meet those who have the strength to shed tears without feeling embarrassed. It is hard to understand why society has placed such a weight on so many men, it really stunts their emotional growth.
Women are better at showing emotions, but we have our own problems; we are masters at cutting other women down with emotional manipulation and forming ‘clicks’. Instead of being up front with what we think or feel we insinuate and we have a hard time accepting that others outshine us, but we don’t admit that it is hard. Admitting that we feel inferior when someone else surpasses us makes us feel vulnerable!
The best feeling of them all can also be a problem; how often don’t we just stop in our tracks when we want to express our love and affection to someone, just because we are afraid of being rejected and with that feel vulnerable? But if we think about it; why not just express it anyway? So what if we get rejected, it just means the other party does not feel the same, it does not mean we are in the slightest bit wrong or weak!
Learning to show our feelings in an open and honest way is freeing and quite often I think that if we could teach our children to listen to the peaceful voice in our heads instead of listening to the ego, the world would be a more peaceful place.
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