So often do I catch myself thinking about oher things when I really should be concentrating on what someone is talking to me about or what I am reading or doing. It is almost like a disease that we cannot focus on the present; we are constantly thinking about something in the future or dwelling on what happened in the past.
Really seeing children
It is really frustrating when I realize that I have not taken the time to see and listen to my own children or children I meet. Listening to a child is so important and they always know it when you don’t. You should always make it a point to really listen to what they have to tell you, because it builds their self confidence when they feel that you value what they say and that you actually are there for them. If we just pretend to listen, the child knows it immediately and feigning interest can truly take away a child’s sence of value.
Listen to friends!
How about when we talk to friends? How often do we not just “half listen” while we are planning our response? We think we know where they are going with what they are saying and so we are already working on a witty comeback. This makes us lose half the conversation and we don’t take in the new information they might be trying to give us! Not to mention it is also a bit rude….
The best way to remember a person
If you want to remember a person’s name and many other things about that person, and if you also want a person to like you; don’t just get their business card! Instead you should most definitely focus totally on what the person you are talking to is actually saying!
Ex-president Clinton is considered a very nice person by almost all people he meets because of his incredible ability to never forget a face. This knack is based in the fact that when he talks to someone; he focuses completely on that person and really listens before he responds, and wouldn’t that be a great thing to do? Don’t we all love it when we are being listened to? When what we say is being contemplated and valued? I know I want my friends to feel valued in that way.
Doing things in the moment
Being present is not to just listen while someone is talking; it is also being aware of what you are doing. When you are present you give your focus to the things at hand, and by doing that almost anything is more pleasurable then when you just try to get it done. Doing the dishes or mopping the floor becomes less of a chore when you do it consciously and with care. When we go through life staying in the moment everything becomes almost like a meditation and we find that so many things we have never noticed before are beautiful, just because we open our eyes. I know this is how I want to live my life; with my eyes open!
Please comment on this or any of the other posts, I’d love to know what you think!