Nothing ever stays the same, that is the only thing we can be sure of. Even the highest mountain is constantly changing. Everything is created or born, has it’s lifespan and then crumbles and dies, the greatest and the smallest alike. Knowing this can make a person terrified and paralyzed and hanging on to the old for dear life, so how can I say that transformation is actually a blessing?
What if nothing changed?
If everything would stay the same, we would never be able to get anywhere or change our circumstances, wether they are good or bad. Sure, if you are rich and happy that might sound great, but would it not get very boring to know that this is all you will ever have? Nothing to strive for and nothing to learn would be horrible, even in the lap of luxury! And if your circumstances were not as good, what would you do if you knew it would not, could not, change? Would you not just give up if you knew that nothing you do can get you out of the place you are in?
Taking a leap
There is nothing more exhilarating and exciting than to take a leap into the unknown to see if maybe you can change your situation. Wether it works out well or not, at least you learn something and you grow and change and you get stronger. Sometimes we have a tendency to start something and if it doesn’t work immediately, we give up. That is not change! That is reverting to our old beliefs about ourselves! If we take a leap, we have to know that working for what we want and not giving up is essential, and when we look back at what we have accomplished we will see how much we have grown.
I certainly know that thinking of our physical changes; wrinkles, aches and pains and all that, is not very pleasant, but hanging on to what we used to be able to do or how we used to look does not help us feel better, does it? Accepting change and embracing transformation is all we can do to stay happy. Learning new things and accepting what is, is also change and gives us the wonderful blessing of internal change. Growing older also means we get wiser and more confident and we usually learn not to take ourselves and things that happen so seriously. We might even learn to laugh at ourselves and some of the things we got upset about when we were younger now seem silly and insignificant. How liberating!
The blessed journey
A very comforting thought when things are bad comes from the Bible: “this too, shall pass” and it goes for the bad as well as the good, but I personaly think it is best to think of when things are not the way I would like them to be. Working and striving for change and transformation is really all we have and in that strive lies most of what makes us happy and content, because most often happiness is in the journey, not in the goal.
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